What Is the Voice of Your Anger?
Updated: May 2026.
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Anger is our response to physical or psychological danger, to violation of our boundaries. Parents’ anger towards their children is a healthy phenomenon. Children often create unsafe conditions and violate our boundaries.
But any anger towards children is a special anger, since it needs to be expressed in a certain way, since the child in itself is not dangerous and his violation of our boundaries is natural and natural. Expressing anger towards a child can and should be learned.
Do you like the way you express your anger with your child? With your anger, are you making him worry, feel stress, fear? Ask him.
If so, then both you and your child are living in stress, for which you are paying a heavy price, even if you do not notice how it is happening. The further you go, the less strength and health you have, and the more problems and mistakes the whole family has.
Our parents taught us to express our anger, and their parents taught them to do so. But we can retrain ourselves and stop passing on painful and unhealthy expressions of anger to future generations.
When we learn to process and regulate anger towards our children, our lives will become less stressful. The ability to regulate your stress is the only way to the best version of yourself, which is so pleasant and useful to be.
Tip to get started:
Return to your body. When you start to get angry, touch your hand, feel your body, think: “My body is my house, it’s calm, I’ll stay in it.”
Remind yourself that you are safe and your child cannot pose a threat to you. Change your intonation to the one you would use with a baby, and give your child clear instructions.
Katerina Markova,
CBT therapist, teacher, founder of Animago
Sometimes it is difficult for us to cope with our own anger, and helping a child is even more difficult.
To prevent a child’s anger from harming him and others, at Animago we successfully teach anger management to children aged 3 years and older.